When was the last time you looked in a mirror and liked what you saw? I mean REALLY appreciated your body for all that it is. Imperfections and all. I can honestly say that after twenty five years I’ve finally fallen in love with my body and all of it’s imperfections. Crazy, right? I mean in a world where we’re shamed for not looking a certain way who would think it’s possible?
This epiphany of course came after an unfortunate encounter with an unpleasant individual on a dating app. First let me start by saying:
If a boy ever responds to you with feeble insults after you’ve declined an invitation you’ve made the appropriate decision.
I say boy because a man would not act in such a way. Anyway, in short this individual decided to insult me after I wouldn’t respond to a question he had asked. I explained to him that wasn’t how this works and he quipped “When was the last time you looked in a mirror”? As if my looks held any sort of baring on what I deserve. Six months ago those words would have pierced like a knife. Shit, an off day and I’d of stayed in bed licking my wounds. It was then however I realized after twenty five years these comments no longer feel like a blow to the chest.
You see, this person doesn’t know me. He doesn’t know that for the past six months I’ve developed a whole new lifestyle. He doesn’t know that my body can do things in the gym it wasn’t able to do two months ago. He doesn’t know that throughout the past six months I’ve fallen in love with my body and have learned how to appreciate my reflection in the mirror more than ever.
Once I allowed myself to feel comfortable in my own skin I realized I was no longer held captive by the words of others. While society may suggest I settle for whatever comes my way I now know I don’t have to. For anyone. If I can ask one thing of all of you it’s that you don’t settle. Not for anything. If someone you’re with makes you unhappy, leave. If you hate your job, quit. It’s that simple. Find a new opportunity, a new love interest, a new life. Start fresh.
I guess that’s why I’m here. To start fresh and share/explore new opportunities after twenty five.