I had a friend going through some really hard times in his life a couple months ago and they said the most devastating thing to me:
I just want someone to care. I’m not trying to be selfish I know my parents care about all of this stuff but that’s natural they’re my parents. I want someone who doesn’t have to care, who doesn’t have to check in but wants to. Someone who gives a shit.
I hate this for so many reasons. One because he felt selfish for wanting someone other than his parents to care for him when it’s essential for everyone in life. Two because I can’t do anything.
Guys I have such a big heart and I mean it when I say it broke when he said this. This is a friend I met online and am unfortunately unable to physically be there for him. He doesn’t have a good support system. It sucks. I’ve been there.
People underestimate how important it is for a healthy support system in your life. I’m not talking your family I’m talking people that don’t have to show up but still do. That check in just to see how you’re doing even when you haven’t hit them up in awhile. People to share your highs and lows with. People to support you when you have trouble supporting yourself.
We hate admitting we need someone or need help but understand it’s an essential part of life and being human. Asking for help doesn’t make you weak, it makes you strong.